The Grieving Process

It is painful to work a muscle or joint that has been injured. We feel as if we can't move it at all without some type of annoying ache. We may feel as if we can't go another minute working that area because it just hurts so badly. However, we soon find out after time the pain has subsided and we are able to use that part of our body again without much difficulty.

If you don't get closure at the end of a relationship it can niggle away at you for years. The end of a relationship is a big deal, but there are lots of smaller unfinished deals that can also be niggling away. As you walk through your home what do you notice? Perhaps the picture that still needs to be hung on the wall, the laundry pile that needs to be folded, the tax return that still needs to be completed?

Resilience is the quality of being able to bounce back from or adjust to major loss or change. Resilient survivors have developed skills and beliefs to meet the challenge of living without the physical presence of their loved one. How can you develop the resiliency to meet the new circumstances of life? Here are seven key areas to concentrate on.

When we experience the loss of a loved one we can feel totally powerless as the feelings associated with grief wreak havoc in our lives. Recently, or even many years later, we may have little control over our life and go through the motions in survival mode only. We wonder if we will ever feel some degree of peace again. Stepping back onto the bus and getting onto the highway of life takes courage, but more than that, it takes a commitment to you.

Nature is widely known for the restorative and healing potential of nature. This is especially so when we are grieving the loss of a loved one or facing difficulties in life. My own personal experience has enabled me to capture my experiences and wrap them into The 5 Healing Powers of Nature.

It can be hard to grasp or even accept the idea that there are such things as "grief gifts." How can we possibly believe that the experience of grief and loss will bestow any such gift?

Assuming you are not looking for the physical body of someone who has passed on, it is not so difficult to connect with your deceased friend or family member. That being said, there are certain steps that I, as a Medium, take before connecting with the deceased. If you are planning a visit with someone who has died, my suggestion is to follow a simple protocol such as what I share below, not just to maximize your results but also for your protection.

How do we deal with the space created from loss? All of us experience loss throughout our lifetime. There are the obvious losses: death of a loved one, divorce, health, a career, money...And there are more subtle losses: our youth, our identity, our children growing up and leaving, dreams that will never be realized... Find out how to grieve well.

The depth and breadth of imprecation in this psalm shows us one human being at their absolute lowest ebb. There is no further down the abyss. It's therefore an empathetic catchall, because as we read its verses, we can place ourselves right there, in the darkest miry pit, out of control, depressed, and at the whim of whatever enemies are ours - whether these are actual people, our feelings or thoughts or something else. Take heart, God's beyond this scary shade, willing us to the finish line, calling us home.