Nothing can prepare us for the devastating loss of a beloved baby. As a bereaved parent you may go into shock, battle with sleeplessness, loss of appetite, inability to retain information, anger, guilt and pain. You may feel deeply confused. I want to suggest some simple ways you can help yourself.

In 1969, Elisabeth-Kubler Ross wrote and spoke about the five stages of grief. This was based on her studies of patients facing life threatening illnesses. The five stages of grief are: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.

The second "G" of the Three G's method involves practicing self-care. Self-care is usually not a high priority for new immigrants who are struggling to survive in a foreign country. Yet without self-care, the migrant is not likely to achieve much success in the host country, in the long term. One needs stable psychological and physical health in order to hurdle the obstacles of life in diaspora. Emotional strength and mental stamina are created through self care, which involves such aspects as: dealing with grief, seeking professional help when necessary, creating social support networks, learning to de-stress, and maintaining good physical health.

The death of a person who's very important to us is one of the hardest things to accept. It's a common knowledge that everyone will die in the end and the only we have to do when someone we love so much dies is to accept it and move on.